Friday, January 20, 2017

What is love?

I ever read a Chinese book titled "Count yourself lucky when you are not married", inside it states down many reasons why many couples end up in divorce. For example, in a marriage, the husband after getting the wife he wants, he feels there is no more need to send flowers, buy gifts, remember anniversaries, so he stop doing that. Also, both may get sick of one another after seeing one another day in and day out. It is not easy to succeed in a marriage, many take beautiful wedding photographs, not knowing that those are just illusions and not practical, in real life, marriage is not all that wonderful and has many things to learn and endure. And for Buddhists, they believe marriage has to do with Karma, because you owe that person in your previous life, this life you are together so as to pay that person back. In the book, it also says after marriage, you will see "the true colours" of your other half or many habits of your other half which you cannot stand.

I think TM may have many things to comment on this topic as he has seen many marriages and divorces of his friends and relatives as mentioned in his blog.

I titled this blog post "What is love" because this is really my question, yes, what is love? In the bible, it says love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And some people may confuse love with infatuation where infatuation is the state of being completely lost in the emotion of unreasoning desire.

There are many kinds of love, love for your children, love for your parents, love for your siblings, love for your friends, love for your spouse and so on. But how far would one go to be all giving and not receiving in love. Great is the kind of love who gives and never expects anything in return. It is really not easy to do that.

Just some of my thoughts today.


Rose World said...

Thanks for this sharing. I am still learning how to love. It is a learning thing everyday.

mun said...

I don't agree that someone who gives and never expects anything in return is having a great love. That someone is just being unkind to him/herself and just being a door mat to the others who always takes/takes/takes from him/her. People must love themselves first before they can love others.

Phong Hong said...

I feel that the perfect unconditional love is the love that only Jesus/God has for mankind. I kind of agree with that book you read. Besides happiness, marriage also brings with it duties, obligations and liabilities, some of which we may not be able or willing to fulfill.

Agnes CF Lee said...

Yes there are many kinds of love. the love for the children is unconditional. It is hard to find love among ordinary friends.

suituapui said...

Love is giving and taking and what goes around comes around. Loving without expecting anything in return is sacrifice, not love.

I always tell my girl to show love in any way she can, however small, for only by giving love will she get love in return...and it may not be in ways she expects - it could be some special Blessing from God in His own way.

Nancy Chan said...

Love is a word so often and so casually used. I can say none of us is able to give or receive perfect love for there is no perfect person on earth. But we have one perfect example in Jesus what perfect love is.