Monday, January 23, 2017

I am in love

I am in love or shall I say I was in love... got to know this guy at a fast food restaurant, got to know through mutual friends that he is divorced and he has a ten years old son. One day I treated his son to eat ice cream, he then approached me and talked to me, saying he is now divorcing his wife and so on. We spent many days chatting at Mac near our house and he told me many things about himself. I kind of like him because he seems the gentle type. But my friends cautioned me and asked me if he is officially divorced, where she has heard cases where the guy has no intention to divorce and was just trying out new girls. One thing I do not really like is he has high ego and is seldom true about his emotions, he is born in the year of Tiger and I understand that they may find it hard to make true friends with strong self-egoism.

At times he will message me and ask where I am, if I am asleep already and stuff like that. I will tell him where I am and when I ask him back, he will act blur and not answer me directly.

There was once I message him and asked if he wants to go out, he replied and asked with a one word answer: "Why?", I was so irritated that I refused to reply him.

I was a happy and carefree single until he come and disturb. Now I always think of him, thinking if he is asleep or what he is doing, I think the best strategy now is to just ignore him.

These quotes speak my mind and what I am thinking now.
There are many kinds of love in this world, I have love from my close friends and my mother, there need not be romantic love at all if it is causing you pain and sorrow.

I hope this will tie over very soon and I will be able to forget him.

Hope he did not happen to read this post (I did not tell him I have a blog though).

11 comments:

Phong Hong said...

Libby, I want to give you a hug. Your instincts are telling you that this is not a favorable prospect. Be strong girl, and take good care of yourself. You are important!

Agnes CF Lee said...

you deserve to be loved and not to be hurt by loving someone. Hope you will get some one who loves you sincerely, fully and unconditionally.

mun said...

Relationships are very complicated. Listen to your head and you will know what is the best thing to do.

Twilight Man said...

You must believe in fate and let the fate rules. Everything happens for a reason in life and that includes how he came into your life suddenly. I would advise you to do prayers at the temple and ask for good blessings.

If he is meant to be your new hubby, he can still change eventually. I can say that 90% of my friends have high ego too! Sometimes we humans under or over estimated others and got tangled up instead. Now you even found it hard to forget him, means he must be dancing in your mind every hour. That's called LOVE and soon the cupids will hover above your head too. Good luck and update us please for part 2.

Nux V said...

I tink I would forget such 'ego' person...well, if he has the intention for a serious relationship he will approach u properly. He seems more of 'making use' of u to fill up his loneliness, but when he is occupied, he's cold towards u. U deserve a better love and care ;-)

Libby said...

PH, Agnes, Mun, TM, Nux: Thanks all for your concern and precious input

Libby said...

PH, Agnes, Mun, TM, Nux: I do not know what I should do now, on one hand I think he is not worthy of my love, on the other hand I am thinking maybe there is some miscommunication and misunderstanding and I should give him a chance.

CL (RealGunners) said...

Please please please please please just forget about him and ignore him. Do not entertain the thoughts of "give him a chance" or "misunderstanding".

If you are in a marriage, you DO NOT get jiggly with someone else, otherwise that makes you a moron of the highest order. "You" here means "him".

Marriage is like pregnancy. It is very simple: You are either married, or you are not. There is no such thing as in process of married/divorce. If and when he finalized his divorce and becomes single again, he can go find his new love. Otherwise, please tell him to go fuck himself if he feel dissatisfied with his wife. Please do not get caught up with this kind of idiot.

Agnes CF Lee said...

Find someone who really cares for you and someone who you feel really comfortable with rather than having to guess his mind and get yourself mentally tired.

mun said...

i fully agree with RG on this.

Nancy Chan said...

Your head is telling you something and your heart is telling you another thing. But I think you already knew what is the right thing to do with someone who is not willing to reveal much about himself to you. My dear girl, you deserve someone better than this. Hugs. Stay cool and steady.