Thursday, June 18, 2015

Shouting works!

My student Thomas is really very naughty, for example I would ask him to answer a question, he knows the answer but he purposely tells me the wrong answer, trying to be funny. He likes to draw during my Chinese lesson and not pay attention. Today I shouted at him, I said "Behave yourself, understand?" He got a shock and says Yes I understand. I need to be more strict and firm with him because he is really very mischievous, cannot be too lenient with him.

14 comments:

ChrisAu said...

Yeah, some kids are very naughty and needed some disciplining!

Twilight Man said...

My wife always used reversed psychology to deal with her students.

Libby said...

TM: Thanks TM, I learned something today but will reverse psychology confuse the children as to what is right and what is wrong?

Chris: Yes indeed

Libby said...

TM: For example, if the kid misbehaves and scribbles his work, if I use reverse psychology, does that mean I would say oh how nice your scribbling, so that the child will behave in the reverse way and writes nicely

Libby said...

TM: Reverse psychology is indeed something new to me, I had google for it and this is what it says "By going with, not against, the client's resistance, the therapist makes the behavior less attractive", I think reverse psychology works on rebellious children

Libby said...

Reverse psychology works on children who hate being told what to do

Bluedreamer27 said...

I guess shouting isn't that bad as long as it is not really that traumatizing right.... you can shout with them the "motherly" way because sometimes, they really have to learn if they're doing something wrong....
I guess Reverse psychology can be effective but not in every kids

Bluedreamer27 said...

By the way Libby, thanks for dropping by at my site..
really appreciate that ^_^

[SK] said...

indeed not easy to deal with naughty kids, there are lots to consider especially if that is not your own kid.. i guess you may need to think of more "tricks" in the future, because one many not be effective for long..

RealGunners said...

But ah, if you use reverse psychology to deal with kids, wouldn't that mean you are encouraging them to continue behaving like how they are? Eg. Continue to do the opposite of what is being told. Isn't it better to figure out how to straighten them instead, for the long term?

Twilight Man said...

Wow!!! You replied me so many comments!

Actually I used this method myself when I worked for the most stressful HKG advertising agency for over 10 years and serviced all the big horrendous adult clients besides running the agency. I found that reversed psychology always worked when all normal tactics and talking would yield zero results. Then married my wife who became a lecturer at those upscale colleges for the most wealthy kids. She always climbed the walls and tore her hair off as most wealthy kids have some kinda lifestyle diseases due to bad parenting backgrounds.

Solution: Reversed Psychology works!

Twilight Man said...

RealGunners - I guess you have not been driven up the walls by the spoilt rotten brats. When you tell them to STOP doing it, they would ignore and continue! Instead, you tell them VERY GOOD! CONTINUE ON! The kid would stop and stare at you before puling handbrakes. This is just an example.

mun said...

I guess shouting would work if you caught them by surprise. But I don't think it is sustainable to use shouting for the long term.

Libby said...

One may not be effective